Q. How can I look up words like “illegal alien” or “lady” that are hurtful to the people described?
A. Use search terms like “bias-free writing,” “slurs to avoid,” or “offensive terms.” To find general advice on how to write sensitively, you can search for “inclusive language” or “conscious style.” CMOS 5.255–67 (“Inclusive Language and Minimizing Bias”) might help. You can also find lots of advice at Conscious Style Guide.